Give Yourself Permission

Give yourself permission to let go.

When I think of letting go, friend, I think of two ways in which one can release.

Some things we grasp hold tightly because we know once we let go, once we stop trying, grasping or clinging — whatever is in our grasp will disappear or leave.

So we hold on with a whiten knuckle grip and clenched teeth and we fight, often finding honor in the willingness to fight so hard and suffer so much in our relentlessness.

Instead, though, what we are actually doing is diverting energy, attention, and focus onto something that should be released and let go off to free space and make room for something else.

There is no honor or nobility in the white-knuckling, only blind stubbornness.

When we cling to ideas, dreams, or people after we’ve outgrown them because we’re afraid of letting go, of what comes next, we are cheating ourselves from our next evolution.

So, first there are things that must be released in order to purge them. Other times we must release in order to flow. We must stop trying to control, fight, manage or manipulate and — instead — ride the momentum of.

Sometimes there are things that need to be eradicated, dismissed, or erased because they do not serve you and the person that you are becoming.

And sometimes you just need to let go of control and let it be the momentum that drives you forward, the wind that fills your sails, the current that takes you downstream.

This is the type of release that creates space to flow with what comes easily, while holding the rudder to avoid pitfalls and the river bank — but first we must push off the dock.

This is the release that allows the kite to dance on the wind, while holding the kite string — but first we must let go of the kite.

This requires the wisdom and understanding that we do not direct the current or the way in which the wind blows, but we do have to decide and then allow ourselves to be carried and guided.

So, give yourself permission to let go.

Always,
Your Trusted Friend